Vincent Jan Rubio Killed

Sharksfin and I met VJ when we were still writing for the Philippine Collegian. Aside from being part of the Kultura section, the only thing that we knew about VJ was the Sto. Nino story. Rumors had it that his mom chanced upon him dancing in front of the mirror.  His mom thought that he was being possessed by infant Jesus and told the neighborhood about the Dancing Sto. Nino scene. The story earned him the “Dancing Sto. Nino” title.  Please note that we only heard about the story from the veteran staffers – story may, or may not, be true.

Almost 8 years after our Collegian days, we found out from Facebook that VJ was killed. We do not have access to any decent news article about his death. We found three articles online and they are all clearly SS (salsal) stories. We can tell. And we hate it. These articles shouldn’t have been published.

I find it quite awkward to write about the death of people I didn’t know too well. It feels like I’m bound to do injustice to the one that passed on. It’s just that when someone you know dies this way, you cannot help but feel an unexplainable loss and an overwhelming fear.

We are swimming in the same seas. What happened to VJ can happen to anyone. Is it still right to bring children into this kind of life? I’m due to give birth in the next few days. I am already scared for Potling. The mere thought of losing Sharksfin never fails to bring palpitations and tears. Visions of  tragic deaths for the important people in my life horrify me. Now, more than ever.

Condolences to VJ’s family and loved ones.

VJ, please help everyone heal – and make the bastards pay.


You Belong To Me

See the pyramids around the Nile
Watch the sun rise
From the tropic isle
Just remember darling
All the while
You belong to me
See the market place
In old Algiers
Send me photographs and souvenirs
Just remember
When a dream appears
You belong to me

And I’ll be so alone without you
Maybe you’ll be lonesome too

Fly the ocean
In a silver plane
See the jungle
When it’s wet with rain
Just remember till
You’re home again
You belong to me

Oh I’ll be so alone without you
Maybe you’ll be lonesome too

Fly the ocean
In a silver plane
See the jungle
When it’s wet with rain
Just remember till
You’re home again
You belong to me

For my sisters: A Soulful Relationship

From a dear friend’s blog. Heaven on earth requires a lot of hard work.

Best wishes in life and love.

An African proverb states:

Before you get married,
keep both eyes open, and after you
marry, close one eye.

Before you get involved and make a commitment to
someone, don’t let lust, desperation,
immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a
low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs.

Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool
yourself that you can change someone or that
what you see as faults aren’t really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time
his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves,
and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow
and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye
and not let every little thing bother you.

You and your mate have many different expectations,
emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths.

You are two unique individual
children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?

Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other,

or do you compete, compare, and control?

What do you bring to the relationship?

Do you bring past relationships,
past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can’t take someone to the altar to alter him or her.
You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual
discernment, and life quote;, you won’t find
yourself making someone else responsible for
your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are not the ingredients of a
thriving, healthy, loving and lasting
relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and
security are the wrong reasons to be in a
relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of
humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway
time without business or children and daily
exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a
call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on
their voicemail or send a nice email.

Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important.

Grow together, not away from each other,

giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.

Allow your mate to have outside interest.

You can’t always be together.
Give each other a sense of belonging and
assurances of commitment.

Don’t try to control one another.

Learn each other’s family situation.

Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don’t put pressure on each other for material goods.

Remember for richer or for poorer.

If these qualities are missing,

the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse,
neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

The difference between ‘United’ and ‘Untied’ is
where you put the I.

Bloody Show

A tablespoon of blood.

On our way to the labor room  with all the women of the household in tow. Doctor’s order.

Pustahan? False alarm or game na? Malamang false alarm.

Postnatal Glow

Biologically, it is the time after birth, a time in which the mother’s body, including hormone levels and uterus size, return to prepregnancy condition

Last week, Sharksfin and I spent a significant amount of time talking about a friend’s dreams. I felt a little envious as he remembered the details of friend’s dreams, used what he knew as a slant for his birthday greeting to her… and because I am not sure if he can enumerate all of mine. Of course, I was proud too.  The man’s listening skills continues to improve – and it now extends outside of our little circle (me and him inside).

Anyways, for fear of being accused of losing my spice after X number of years of being married/a mom, I’d like to post a shout-out to the world. These are the things I’m hoping to accomplish:

  1. Jobhunt – find a job that addresses my current life needs
  2. Try ETEEAP (Expanded Tertiary Education Equivalency and Accreditation Program) – been teaching for the past 4 years, might as well be “licensed” to do it
  3. Learn how to drive
  4. Re-learn Photoshop
  5. Master breast stroke, improve free style
  6. Walk at least 30 minutes everyday
  7. Back to daily squats and half-crunches
  8. Grow, maintain a garden
  9. Learn how to bake
  10. Fatten up my first ever personal bank account

These are just 10 items. The list continues to grow every day. These are just the most intense of my desires.

Wish me well.

My Memory of You – Sexperian Days

From Facebook Notes:

Leave one memory that you and I had together. It doesn’t matter if you knew me a little or a lot. Don’t send a message, leave a comment here. Next, re-post this in your notes and see how many people leave a memory about you. It’s actually pretty cool (and funny!!) to see the responses!

I like this. Sige sasagutin ko dito. Sa lahat ng mababanggit, know that you are missed.

Sexperian Days (non-disclosure ng account names eh!)

  • Danilo Magtowtow – ang ating SINGKIL hour, gagawin lahat para sa saves rate; ang aking pangako sa iyo na kapag nalungkot ka, papakitaan kita ng _____; sino ang binansagan nating MANOK? TIPAKLONG? LIBRARIAN? PUSIT? ; ang ating wonderful concept on the 13 articles of clothing para ma-inspire lahat ng bakla at babae na mag-retain ng cx;
  • CHORBELL – oh where are you? ang kampana na kinidnap ni Miss M___ dahil ayaw niya ng maingay
  • CP30 – Compost Pit 3.0 the dirtiest van alive; marumi pero sadyang maaasahan; pagbukas ng pinto, agos ang basura; sinulatan ni Kleyr sa likod ng “Huwag mag-alala, liliguin kita”; almusal sa dampa umabot ng meryenda tuloy tulog ako sa shift; thank you to Nipel Hilomen
  • Tatay Carlo – masarap ilips to lips sa bumbuman (mmmwwwah!);   napapatili namin ni Zhailyn at Kleyr at Paan kapag tinatry namin hulihin ang kanyang bird; ang make believe cordon walk for Mama Mels, kunwari artista si Mama Mels at kami ang mga bodyguard, hawak hawak kamay para hindi siya ma-mob ng mga fans; hirit  kay Mama Mels habang umuubo si Chantal “sige tangina ka buhay ka pa!”pakiusap kay Mama Mels “ilabas mo na kasi yang inner beauty na yan!”; sigaw sa floor “Bonostro umayos ka!”; trigeminal neuralgia;  hipon hipon hipon mahilig sa hipon; Mariah fan; jeans na bulaklakin katerno kay Moi; kayang sumigaw ng pabulong at sumipol gaya ng idol na si Mariah; probinsyanong sosyal – Laguna to Manila (and back) everyday; mahal naming impo
  • Mama Mels – Xiexie; Vic Zhou; slutty nails (parang pusang mangangalmot); kasama namin ni Paan sa Miko Moment etymology scene; natural na nakasimangot kahit masaya; notorious sa pamatay na mga YM handle;  birthday niya ang nakapuwersa kay Chino magsabi ng CHORVA; kumakain ba siya?; natutulog ba siya?; forever love team ni Tatay C; muntik mahimatay sa Kamias; may tagahatid na taxi papunta sa trabaho everyday; imbentor nung SAVES tracker; minsang naalukan ni Robitussin Girl ng salvation – pinagbabasa siya ng brochure; may puso siya, malaki
  • Jinandan – little Rascals; konyo talk; Ewww; let’s make gawa; pinakamaraming gimik sa team; makulay na bulletin boards; masarap na mga ulam; toyomansi; mga away with Mean Jean; naging Bisaya; nagmahal; nagmahal ulit, sana di magsawa; maldito; pwedeng lider ng unyon; rep pa lang nilabanan na ang no-aux policy kaya muntik na hindi sumikat (muntik lang); hindi nakakayosi na walang kendi; madaldal
  • Zhailyn – madalas paiyakin si Mama Mary dahil ang lakas magmura (pareho ni Kleyr); mahusay mag-make up; lakwatsera; umiinom hindi nalalasing; may kapatid na fairy; may nanay na masarap ka-text; nagbubunot ng kilay habang tumatanggap ng escalated calls; mahilig manipa ng likod ng upuan; “yosi tayo! release mo na yan!”; “anong may call? wala kang call!”; pinauupo ang mga masayahing bakla malapit sa station niya para raw ok ang shift; concealer lang ang katapat ng puyat
  • Dada C – may sa Nardong Putik; dumarating kung kelan naglalagay ng lipgloss si Nick, tulog si Mori or kumakain sa station si Kleyr; in response sa request na mag-leather pants siya para tumaas ang saves at morale “not buff na e”;

To be comtinued…

Facebook Newbie Forever

I have an account in FB.  I actually have three (I think) because it took a while for me to understand how the social monster works. To date, I am still having a hard time using it.

My difficulties as a Facebook veteran-newbie explains the mysterious activity/inactivity of my account. Here are some unsolicited explanations.

  1. Applications/Games – I have more than 50 invites for games and apps. Sorry, I just really don’t know how to use them. I am also not motivated to learn how to use them because I’m not crazy about FB.
  2. Wall Messages – I’m still a bit confused with this function so I have  not been religiously responding to messages.
  3. Notes/Blog-Like Entries/Tags – for quizzes, questions, etc. As with apps and games, I also don’t know how to use them. I’ve been reading your entries, but I cannot figure out how to respond to the questions myself.
  4. Invitations – I know that FB should not be taken seriously but my network is not a social climbing/career advancement/diplomacy haven. I have several pending invites and these are the possible reasons for why I have yet to accept your invite:
  • I haven’t been checking my account
  • I don’t know you
  • I know you, but I don’t like you
  • I know you by NAME but it’s not enough

So there… do you actually care?